Tales From the Counter - The “I Know Exactly What I Want” Customer

They walk in with purpose.

No browsing. No hesitation. No eye contact with the menu.

They step right up and say it like they’ve been rehearsing:

“I need Blue Dream. 3.5. That’s it.”

Ah, yes.

The confidence.

The conviction.

The emotional support strain.

Now here’s the thing—this customer isn’t wrong.

At some point in their life, Blue Dream was the moment. The vibe. The personality trait.

And honestly? We respect that.

But…

There’s just one tiny detail.

We don’t have Blue Dream.

This is where things get delicate.

Because what feels like a simple inventory issue is actually something much deeper:

Expectation vs. Reality.

You can literally watch it happen in real time.

Step 1: Confidence Step 2: Confusion Step 3: Mild betrayal

“Wait… how do you not have it?”

And here’s the trap a lot of people fall into:

Trying to replace the strain.

Wrong move.

Because this customer isn’t asking for a name.

They’re asking for a feeling they’ve already experienced and trust.

So instead of saying:

“We don’t have that.”

You shift it.

“Tell me what you liked about Blue Dream.”

Now we’re talking.

Was it uplifting? Creative? Did it help with anxiety? Was it a “clean” high?

Suddenly, the conversation opens up.

And now you’re not taking something away from them— you’re helping them find it again.

Here’s where the magic happens.

You guide them toward something new:

A similar terpene profile. A balanced hybrid. Something that matches the experience, not the label.

And when they’re open to it?

That’s the moment.

Because you didn’t just sell them a product.

You expanded their world a little.

Why This Customer Matters

This customer represents something powerful:

Brand loyalty—but to a memory.

And if you can honor that while introducing something new?

You build trust in a way that sticks.

Not because you had exactly what they wanted… but because you understood why they wanted it.

And let’s be honest…

Half the time?

They come back and say:

“Okay… that was actually better.”

And you just smile like you knew all along. 😌

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Tales From the Counter - The “My Friend Told Me to Ask for This” Customer

Every budtender knows this moment.

A customer approaches the counter with the cautious confidence of someone carrying secondhand information.

They lean in slightly and say something like:

"My friend told me to ask for… um…"

Then they look down at their phone like they’re about to read a secret code.

"Do you have… Gorilla Pancake Cookies Diesel OG?"

Now at this point the budtender has two options.

Option one: pretend that strain absolutely exists.

Option two: gently explain that cannabis strain names sometimes travel through a game of telephone before reaching the dispensary counter.

Because somewhere between the original recommendation and the moment they walked in, things may have gotten a little… scrambled.

Sometimes the request sounds like a breakfast menu.

Sometimes it sounds like a monster truck.

And sometimes it sounds like a strain that definitely existed in 2017 but hasn't been seen since.

But the real beauty of this customer is that they trust their friend.

Their friend had a good experience.

Their friend said, “You’ve gotta try this.”

So here they are, ready to give cannabis a shot based on a recommendation that may or may not have survived the journey intact.

This is where the budtender gets to do a little translating.

"What did your friend say it helped with?"

Relaxing?
Pain relief?
Creativity?
Sleep?

Because once you understand the goal, the mysterious strain name suddenly matters a lot less.

The conversation becomes a little detective work.

And eventually the customer walks out with something close—sometimes even better—than whatever their friend originally recommended.

Then the best part happens a few days later.

They come back in smiling and say:

"That worked great."

And somewhere out there, their friend gets the credit.

Which, honestly, feels completely fair.

Because in the cannabis world, word-of-mouth might still be the most powerful marketing strategy on the planet.

Even if the strain name gets a little creative along the way.

Tales From the Counter - The Weekend Adventurer

You can usually spot them before they even reach the counter.

They walk in with the energy of someone who has already decided this weekend is going to be a good one.

Not chaotic energy.
Not “give me the strongest thing you’ve got” energy.

More like:

"I’m going camping."
"We’re going to a concert."
"It’s game night with friends."

They’re not looking to disappear into the couch.

They’re looking for a little enhancement to the experience.

These customers are fun because they usually arrive with a plan… but not necessarily a strategy.

One person might say:

"I want something that makes music sound amazing."

Another might lean in and whisper like they’re asking for a secret menu item:

"What’s good for being outside?"

And occasionally someone will just shrug and say:

"I just want to laugh a lot."

Now this is where the budtender brain starts working like a playlist curator.

Because the goal isn’t sleep.
It isn’t pain relief.

It’s vibes.

Something uplifting.
Something social.
Something that doesn’t suddenly convince someone the couch is the most interesting object in the room.

These are the moments when you start talking about things like:

• bright citrusy terpenes
• lighter, energetic effects
• products that won’t last six hours longer than the concert

And somewhere in the middle of that conversation, the customer starts picturing the whole weekend in their head.

The hike.
The music.
The backyard hang.

Cannabis becomes less about the product itself and more about the setting it’s about to walk into.

Those are the interactions that remind you this plant shows up in a lot of different ways for a lot of different people.

Sometimes it helps someone sleep.

Sometimes it helps someone manage pain.

And sometimes…

It just helps a good weekend become a really good weekend.

Tales From the Counter - The “I Just Want to Sleep Tonight” Customer

There’s a very specific kind of customer who walks into a dispensary.

They’re not browsing.
They’re not curious about new strains.
They’re not looking for the highest THC on the menu.

They’re tired.

Not the “I stayed up too late watching Netflix” kind of tired. The kind of tired that comes from weeks—or sometimes months—of bad sleep.

When they reach the counter, the conversation usually skips all the normal small talk.

They lean in a little and say something like:

"I just want to sleep tonight."

And suddenly the whole interaction changes.

Because this isn’t someone chasing a buzz. This is someone who has probably already tried everything.

The teas.
The melatonin.
The “turn off screens an hour before bed” advice.
Maybe even prescription sleep meds that worked… until they didn’t.

By the time they’re standing in a dispensary, cannabis often feels like the last experiment on the list.

This is where budtending becomes less about products and more about listening.

Are they struggling to fall asleep… or stay asleep?
Do they wake up at 3 a.m. and stare at the ceiling for two hours?
Do they want something gentle, or something that’s going to tell their brain, “Okay, we’re done for the day.”

These conversations tend to move a little slower.

People ask more questions.
Budtenders ask a few back.
And somewhere in the middle of that exchange, the person who walked in exhausted starts to feel a little hopeful.

Now here’s the part of the job that never gets old.

A week or two later, that same person walks back in and says something simple:

"I slept."

Not dramatically.
Not like they just climbed Everest.

Just relief.

If you’ve ever struggled with sleep, you know that a good night’s rest can feel like someone quietly handed you your life back.

Moments like that are easy to overlook in retail.

But behind a dispensary counter, they happen more often than people realize.

And sometimes the best part of the job is knowing that a small conversation—and the right recommendation—helped someone finally get the one thing they were really looking for.

Eight solid hours of peace.

Tales From the Counter - The Curious First-Timer

If you work behind the counter at a dispensary long enough, you begin to recognize familiar characters. Not stereotypes—people. Humans with stories, questions, and sometimes a little nervous energy when they walk through the door.

And one of the most recognizable characters of all is The Curious First-Timer.

You can usually spot them right away. They pause for a moment just inside the entrance. Their eyes move across the menu boards. They take in the jars, the products, the names they’ve never heard before. Sometimes they lean in a little closer to the counter and quietly say the five magic words every budtender knows by heart:

“Okay… I’ve never done this before.”

And honestly? That moment is one of the best parts of the job.

Because behind that sentence is usually a story.

Sometimes it’s someone in their 60s who grew up during decades when cannabis was something whispered about, not discussed openly. Now they’re curious if it might help them sleep better or ease arthritis pain.

Sometimes it’s a professional who’s burned out from long workdays and is wondering if there’s a better way to unwind than another glass of wine.

Sometimes it’s someone who heard from a friend, a sibling, or even a doctor that cannabis might help with stress, sleep, or chronic pain. And now they’re standing at the counter wondering where to even begin.

This is where the budtender’s real job begins.

Not with products.
Not with THC percentages.
Not with terpene charts.

With listening.

A good budtender slows things down. The dispensary menu can feel overwhelming the first time. Flower, vapes, edibles, tinctures, concentrates… it can feel like someone just handed you a 40-page coffee menu and asked you to pick something immediately.

Instead, the conversation usually starts with a simple question:

“What are you hoping to feel?”

Better sleep?
Less anxiety?
A little relief from pain?
Just curious?

You can almost see the tension leave someone’s shoulders when they realize they don’t have to know everything. They’re not expected to be an expert. They just have to be curious.

That’s the beauty of this moment.

Inside a place like Vertical Cannabis, those interactions become small moments of trust. A person who walked in unsure begins to realize they’re in a place where questions are welcome.

By the end of the conversation, the nervous energy often shifts into something else entirely.

Confidence.

Sometimes they leave smiling and say something like:

“Okay… I think I’m excited to try this.”

And when they come back a week later and say, “That actually helped,” it’s a reminder of something important about the cannabis industry that often gets overlooked.

Behind every product is a person looking for a little improvement in their quality of life.

That’s why The Curious First-Timer will always be one of the most important characters we meet behind the counter. They remind us that cannabis is still new for many people, and the way we greet that curiosity—with patience, kindness, and a little humor—can shape their entire experience.

After all, every expert was once a beginner.

And every first visit starts with a simple question.

Sunshine at the Counter: The Rise of Cannabis in Missouri

Not that long ago, cannabis in Missouri lived mostly in whispers. Quiet conversations. Private relief. A medicine people sought out but rarely discussed openly. Fast forward a few years and the story has changed dramatically. Missouri’s cannabis industry has blossomed into a legitimate, regulated, and rapidly growing sector that is reshaping local economies, changing healthcare conversations, and—most importantly—creating real human connections.

Across the state, dispensaries have become something unexpected: community spaces.

People walk through the doors carrying more than a shopping list. They bring questions, anxiety, curiosity, hope, and sometimes pain. The rise of cannabis in Missouri isn’t just about new products on shelves or tax revenue for the state. It’s about people discovering new ways to manage stress, sleep better, ease chronic pain, or simply reclaim a little peace in their lives.

And that’s where the human element matters.

Inside Vertical Cannabis in St. Joseph, the experience isn’t meant to feel clinical or transactional. When someone approaches the counter, the goal isn’t just to sell something—it’s to listen first.

Some customers arrive knowing exactly what they want. But many walk in unsure, sometimes a little nervous, especially if it’s their first visit to a dispensary. That moment matters. A good budtender knows the conversation starts with empathy.

You might hear things like:

"I haven’t slept in weeks."
"My back hurts constantly."
"My doctor suggested I try something but I don’t know where to start."

The response isn’t a quick product pitch. It’s a conversation.

Listening carefully, asking thoughtful questions, and meeting someone where they are—this is the foundation of the customer experience. Cannabis isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution. What works for one person may not work for another, and every interaction becomes a chance to help someone find what fits their body, their lifestyle, and their comfort level.

That sense of engagement turns a simple retail experience into something more meaningful.

At Vertical Cannabis, the atmosphere often feels more like a welcoming lounge than a traditional storefront. There’s laughter. There’s storytelling. Customers share what worked for them, what didn’t, and sometimes what they’re going through in life. In a world that moves quickly and often feels disconnected, those moments of genuine human interaction stand out.

Many customers return not just because of the products—but because they feel heard.

That’s the quiet magic happening inside dispensaries across Missouri. The industry is growing rapidly, yes. But the heart of it remains deeply personal.

Behind the counter are people who understand that cannabis can be part of someone’s healing process—whether that healing is physical, emotional, or simply about finding a little calm in a chaotic world.

Missouri’s cannabis industry is still young. It will continue to evolve, innovate, and expand. New products will emerge, regulations will shift, and the market will mature.

But if the industry wants to thrive long-term, one thing must remain constant:

The human connection.

Because at the end of the day, cannabis isn’t just about what’s in the jar or bag.

It’s about the moment someone walks out the door feeling just a little lighter than when they walked in.

And sometimes, that little bit of sunshine makes all the difference.

WELCOME BACK — FOR REAL THIS TIME

If you’ve been here before, you know this blog has never been polished for comfort. It has always been raw. Honest. Sometimes messy. Often reflective. And occasionally punctuated by a croissant or a beach in Greece.

But this time, I’m not just picking up where I left off.

This time, I am beginning again.

A lot has happened since I last consistently wrote here. Some of it beautiful. Some of it brutal. Some of it life-altering in ways I never saw coming.

I experienced sexual assault — something I never imagined I would write publicly. Something that rearranges the nervous system in ways you don’t fully understand until you’re living inside of it. Trauma is strange like that. It doesn’t always scream. Sometimes it whispers. Sometimes it sits quietly in the body and waits for a moment of stillness before making itself known.

There are layers to healing from something like that. There is the physical safety. The emotional reckoning. The quiet questioning of trust — in others, and in yourself. There is the grief of realizing that even when you are kind, even when you lead with integrity, harm can still happen.

My identity was stolen by someone I loved. Not just passwords or access points — but trust. Stability. Security. There is something uniquely destabilizing about discovering that someone you let close enough to see you fully was also capable of unraveling parts of your life behind your back. It shakes your foundation. It makes you question your instincts. It makes you check the locks twice.

And so I did something I have done many times in my life.

I went home.

Moving back home wasn’t some cinematic return with applause and closure. It was humbling. It was quiet. It was starting over in ways I never expected to at this stage of my life. I had to rebuild from scratch — emotionally, financially, spiritually.

There is a particular vulnerability in beginning again when you thought you had already built something solid. It can feel like regression. It can feel like failure.

It is neither.

Starting over has forced me to look at my life without illusion. To examine the patterns. To ask myself hard questions. To take ownership of what is mine — and release what is not.

It has also strengthened me in ways comfort never could.

When everything is stripped away, you find out who you really are.

You find out that you are still kind — even when you could be bitter.

You find out that you still believe in truth — even when silence would be easier.

You find out that your capacity to love remains intact — even when trust has been fractured.

That is not weakness.

That is resilience.

Yoga teaches us about duality — light and shadow, pleasure and pain. I have lived in both. I have tried to bypass neither. There is no “good vibes only” here. There is integration. There is sitting with discomfort. There is rebuilding slowly and intentionally.

I am not the same person who left years ago.

I am more aware of boundaries.

More protective of my peace.

More discerning about who gets access to my energy.

More honest about my limits.

And yet — somehow — I am softer too.

Healing does that. It refines you.

This return to writing is intentional. This space will continue to be personal. It will continue to be philosophical. It will continue to be practical. I will talk about yoga and sound and sattvik cooking. I will talk about resilience and grace and truth. I will talk about the hard lessons without wrapping them in glitter.

Because if I have learned anything through assault, betrayal, displacement, and rebuilding — it is this:

You cannot heal what you refuse to name.

You cannot grow from what you pretend did not hurt.

You cannot build a stable future on an unstable truth.

So I am naming it.

I was hurt.

I was betrayed.

I was forced to start over.

And I am still here.

Not hardened. Not cynical. Not defeated.

Still believing there is a place meant for me. Still believing that integrity matters. Still believing that kindness in cruel situations is strength, not weakness.

If you are here reading this and you have ever had to rebuild from rubble — welcome back.

If you have ever questioned your worth after someone violated your trust or your body — you are not alone.

If you are quietly starting over and no one is applauding — I see you.

This blog is not a highlight reel. It is a living document of evolution. Of falling down and standing back up. Of losing power and reclaiming it.

And this chapter?

This chapter is about rebuilding with intention.

With boundaries.

With clarity.

With truth.

Welcome back.

I’m glad you’re here.


A Comprehensive Guide to Overcoming Toxic People Pleasing on a Yogic Path

In the hustle and bustle of modern life, the pressure to please others can often overshadow our own needs and desires. Whether it's in our personal relationships, professional endeavors, or societal interactions, the pervasive need for validation can lead to a cycle of toxic people-pleasing behavior. However, amidst this chaos, the ancient practice of yoga offers a beacon of hope – a transformative journey towards self-awareness, inner peace, and liberation from the shackles of external approval.

Yoga, derived from the Sanskrit word "yuj," meaning union, is a holistic system that encompasses physical postures, breath control, meditation, ethical principles, and self-study. Central to the philosophy of yoga are the eight limbs, or Ashtanga, which serve as a roadmap for spiritual growth and self-realization. By delving into each limb and integrating specific practices into our lives, we can unravel the layers of conditioning that fuel toxic people-pleasing tendencies and cultivate a deep sense of self-worth and authenticity.

Yamas: Cultivating Ethical Principles

The first limb of yoga, Yamas, consists of ethical guidelines for how we interact with the world around us. At the core of Yamas is Ahimsa, the principle of non-violence, which extends not only to others but also to ourselves. When we engage in toxic people-pleasing behavior, we often sacrifice our own well-being in an attempt to avoid conflict or gain approval. Practicing Ahimsa towards ourselves involves recognizing the harm caused by excessive people-pleasing and setting boundaries to protect our mental, emotional, and physical health.

In addition to Ahimsa, other Yamas such as Satya (truthfulness), Asteya (non-stealing), Brahmacharya (moderation), and Aparigraha (non-attachment) provide valuable insights into navigating relationships with integrity and authenticity. By aligning our actions with these ethical principles, we create a foundation for healthy, balanced interactions that honor both ourselves and others.

Niyamas: Cultivating Personal Observances

Niyamas, the second limb of yoga, focus on personal observances that foster self-discipline, self-awareness, and inner contentment. Santosha, or contentment, teaches us to find satisfaction within ourselves rather than seeking external validation. In the context of toxic people-pleasing, Santosha invites us to embrace our inherent worthiness and recognize that true fulfillment comes from within, rather than from the approval of others.

Svadhyaya, the practice of self-study, encourages us to explore the root causes of our people-pleasing tendencies and uncover unconscious patterns of behavior. Through self-reflection, journaling, or therapy, we can gain valuable insights into the underlying beliefs and fears that drive our need for external validation. By shining a light on these shadows, we can begin to release their hold on us and cultivate greater self-awareness and self-compassion.

Asanas: Cultivating Physical Postures

The practice of yoga asanas, or physical postures, is perhaps the most well-known aspect of yoga in the Western world. While asanas offer numerous physical benefits, including increased flexibility, strength, and balance, they also serve as a powerful tool for cultivating self-confidence, resilience, and inner peace.

Certain yoga poses are particularly beneficial for overcoming toxic people-pleasing tendencies by promoting qualities such as strength, openness, and self-assurance. Incorporating poses such as Warrior II (Virabhadrasana II), which builds confidence and empowers us to stand strong in our truth, or Bound Angle Pose (Baddha Konasana), which opens the hips and heart, inviting us to embrace vulnerability and self-acceptance, can be transformative.

Additionally, practicing balancing poses like Tree Pose (Vrksasana) can help cultivate stability and focus, grounding us in our own inner strength and resilience. By engaging in a regular asana practice, we not only nourish our physical bodies but also nurture our emotional and spiritual well-being, paving the way for greater self-confidence and authenticity.

Pranayama: Cultivating Breath Control

Pranayama, or breath control, plays a central role in the practice of yoga, influencing our physical, mental, and emotional states. Through conscious breathing techniques, we can regulate the breath, calm the mind, and access a deeper sense of inner peace and clarity.

In the context of toxic people-pleasing, pranayama offers a valuable tool for managing stress, anxiety, and overwhelm. Techniques such as deep belly breathing, alternate nostril breathing, or extended exhalations can help activate the parasympathetic nervous system, inducing a state of relaxation and calmness.

By cultivating a regular pranayama practice, we can develop greater resilience in the face of external pressures and cultivate a sense of inner steadiness and equanimity. Whether practiced on the yoga mat or incorporated into daily life, conscious breathing serves as a potent reminder of our innate capacity to find peace and presence amidst the chaos.

Pratyahara: Cultivating Withdrawal of Senses

Pratyahara, the fifth limb of yoga, involves withdrawing the senses from external distractions and turning our focus inward. In the context of toxic people-pleasing, Pratyahara invites us to detach from the need for external validation and cultivate a deeper connection with our true selves.

In today's hyper-connected world, we are bombarded with messages and stimuli that can pull us away from our inner wisdom and intuition. By intentionally withdrawing our attention from external influences and tuning into our inner guidance, we can reclaim our autonomy and make decisions aligned with our values and authentic desires.

Practices such as mindfulness meditation, spending time in nature, or engaging in creative expression can facilitate the process of Pratyahara, allowing us to quiet the noise of the external world and listen to the whispers of our own hearts. As we cultivate a deeper sense of inner attunement, we become less swayed by the opinions and expectations of others, finding greater freedom and authenticity in our choices and actions.

Dharana: Cultivating Concentration

Dharana, the sixth limb of yoga, involves cultivating focused concentration and single-pointed attention. In the context of overcoming toxic people-pleasing tendencies, Dharana invites us to direct our energy and awareness towards positive intentions and self-growth.

One powerful tool for developing concentration is the practice of mantra repetition. Mantras are sacred sounds or phrases that carry vibrational energy and can be used to focus the mind and elevate consciousness. By choosing mantras that affirm our inherent worthiness and sovereignty, we can counteract the negative self-talk and limiting beliefs that fuel people-pleasing behavior.

Examples of empowering mantras include:

- "I am worthy of love and respect exactly as I am."

- "My worth is inherent and unaffected by external validation."

- "I honor my needs and boundaries with compassion and integrity."

By incorporating these mantras into our meditation practice or repeating them throughout the day, we reinforce positive affirmations and rewire the neural pathways associated with self-worth and self-empowerment.

In addition to mantra repetition, practices such as focused visualization, candle gazing, or mindfulness of breath can help cultivate concentration and inner stability. As we train the mind to remain anchored in the present moment, we develop greater resilience in the face of distractions and external pressures, empowering us to stay true to ourselves and our values.

Dhyana: Cultivating Meditation

Dhyana, the seventh limb of yoga, involves the practice of meditation – a profound journey inward towards self-awareness, inner peace, and spiritual awakening. Through meditation, we learn to observe our thoughts and emotions with compassionate detachment, cultivating a sense of inner spaciousness and freedom.

In the context of overcoming toxic people-pleasing tendencies, meditation offers a sanctuary of stillness and serenity amidst the chaos of external demands and expectations. By carving out dedicated time each day for silent reflection and introspection, we create space to connect with our inner wisdom and cultivate greater clarity and discernment.

There are many forms of meditation, ranging from focused attention practices such as mindfulness meditation to heart-centered practices such as loving-kindness meditation. Experimenting with different techniques and finding what resonates with us personally can deepen our meditation practice and enhance its transformative power.

Whether seated in silent contemplation, walking in nature, or practicing mindful movement, the essence of meditation lies in cultivating presence and awareness in each moment. As we anchor ourselves in the present moment, we awaken to the inherent wholeness and perfection of our being, free from the need for external validation or approval.

Samadhi: Cultivating Union with the Divine

Samadhi, the eighth and final limb of yoga, represents the culmination of the yogic journey – a state of profound union with the divine, characterized by transcendence of the ego and dissolution of separateness. In Samadhi, we experience a sense of oneness with all of creation, recognizing our interconnectedness and inherent divinity.

While the state of Samadhi may seem elusive or esoteric, its essence lies in the simple recognition of our essential nature as pure awareness and unconditional love. In the context of overcoming toxic people-pleasing tendencies, Samadhi offers the ultimate liberation – freedom from the incessant striving for external validation and approval.

By cultivating a regular yoga practice, incorporating the teachings of the eight limbs, and embracing the path of self-discovery and self-transformation, we can journey towards Samadhi – towards a state of inner peace, wholeness, and fulfillment that transcends the limitations of the egoic mind.

As we navigate the complexities of life and relationships, may we remember that our worthiness lies not in pleasing others, but in honoring our own truth and living with integrity. Through the practice of yoga, may we find the courage to release the need for external validation and embrace the fullness of who we are – worthy, whole, and infinitely deserving of love and acceptance. Namaste.

Embracing Cleaner Eating with Yogic Principles and Sattvik Cooking

In today's fast-paced world, where convenience often trumps health, it's easy to lose sight of the importance of nourishing our bodies with clean, wholesome foods. However, adopting a cleaner diet isn't just about what we eat; it's also about how we eat and the principles we embrace in the process. Yogic principles, rooted in mindfulness and holistic well-being, offer invaluable guidance in this regard. Coupled with the principles of Sattvik cooking, which emphasize purity, simplicity, and balance, we can embark on a journey towards cleaner, more conscious eating habits.

Understanding Yogic Principles:

Yoga, beyond its physical postures, encompasses a philosophy that extends to all aspects of life, including nutrition. Here are some key yogic principles that can guide us towards cleaner eating:

Ahimsa (Non-violence):

Ahimsa encourages us to practice compassion towards all living beings, including animals. Embracing a plant-based diet aligns with this principle, as it avoids harm to animals and promotes environmental sustainability.

Sattva (Purity):

Sattva is one of the three gunas (qualities of nature) in yogic philosophy, representing purity, harmony, and clarity. By choosing fresh, natural, and minimally processed foods, we nourish our bodies with pure energy, fostering mental clarity and emotional balance.

Moderation (Mitahara):

Yogic teachings emphasize the importance of moderation in all aspects of life, including diet. Consuming food in moderation ensures that we maintain a balanced and harmonious relationship with food, avoiding both excess and deprivation.

Awareness (Prana):

Prana, or life force energy, flows through everything, including the food we eat. By cultivating awareness around our food choices and eating habits, we can better align with the natural rhythms of our bodies and the universe, optimizing our health and vitality.

Embracing Sattvik Cooking:

Sattvik cooking is a culinary tradition rooted in Ayurveda, focusing on foods that are fresh, seasonal, and conducive to physical and spiritual well-being. Here are some ways to incorporate Sattvik cooking principles into your diet:

Use Fresh, Whole Ingredients:

Opt for fresh fruits, vegetables, whole grains, nuts, seeds, and legumes. Minimize processed foods, additives, and preservatives, which can disrupt the body's natural balance.

Cook with Love and Intention:

Approach cooking as a mindful practice, infusing your food with positive energy and intention. Cooking with love not only enhances the flavor of your dishes but also nourishes your body and soul.

Balance Flavors and Textures:

Sattvik cuisine emphasizes the balance of flavors (sweet, sour, salty, bitter, and pungent) and textures (soft, crunchy, smooth) in each meal. Experiment with a variety of ingredients and cooking techniques to create well-rounded dishes that satisfy the senses.

Respect Nature's Rhythms:

Eat seasonally and locally whenever possible, aligning your diet with the natural cycles of the earth. Seasonal foods are not only fresher and more flavorful but also contain the nutrients needed to support your body's changing needs throughout the year.

Practical Tips for Cleaner Eating:

Incorporating yogic principles and Sattvik cooking into your daily life doesn't have to be complicated. Here are some practical tips to help you eat cleaner and live more mindfully:

Start Your Day with Warm Water and Lemon:

Kickstart your metabolism and detoxify your body by drinking a glass of warm water with lemon first thing in the morning. This simple ritual helps alkalize the body and aids digestion.

Practice Mindful Eating:

Slow down and savor each bite, paying attention to the colors, flavors, and textures of your food. Chew your food thoroughly and avoid distractions like screens or stressful conversations while eating.

Include a Variety of Colors on Your Plate:

Aim for a rainbow of colors in your meals, as different colored fruits and vegetables contain unique phytonutrients and antioxidants that promote health and vitality.

Stay Hydrated:

Drink plenty of water throughout the day to stay hydrated and support your body's natural detoxification processes. Herbal teas and infused water are also excellent choices for hydration and flavor.

Listen to Your Body:

Tune in to your body's hunger and fullness cues, eating when you're hungry and stopping when you're satisfied. Avoid eating out of boredom, stress, or other emotional triggers.

By incorporating yogic principles and Sattvik cooking into your lifestyle, you can cultivate a deeper connection with your food, nourish your body and soul, and embrace cleaner eating habits that promote health, vitality, and holistic well-being. Remember, it's not just about what you eat, but also how you eat and the consciousness you bring to the table. Bon appĂŠtit and Namaste!

Embracing Imperfection: The Path to Ahimsa in Yoga

In the vast landscape of yoga philosophy, amidst the intricate postures and the profound teachings, lies a cornerstone principle that often gets overshadowed by the pursuit of perfection – Ahimsa, the practice of non-violence and compassion towards oneself and others. Ahimsa beckons us to embrace imperfection as an essential aspect of our yoga journey, inviting us to cultivate kindness, acceptance, and empathy, first, towards ourselves and, then, the world around us.

In a society that glorifies flawlessness, filters and prizes achievement above all else, the concept of embracing imperfection may seem counterintuitive. We are conditioned to believe that success is measured by our ability to attain perfection – flawless poses, impeccable alignment, unblemished faces. Yet, in this relentless pursuit, we risk losing sight of the true essence of yoga – the journey of self-discovery, self-love, and self-acceptance.

When we step onto our yoga mats, Ahimsa asks us to approach our practice with a spirit of gentleness and compassion. It reminds us that yoga is not about contorting our bodies into perfect shapes or achieving Instagram-worthy poses or time-lapse videos; it is about listening to the whispers of our bodies, being with the voice that is yelling dishonest insults, honoring our limitations, and embracing the present moment with open arms. By releasing the need for perfection, we create space for authenticity and vulnerability to flourish, allowing our practice to become a sacred sanctuary for self-exploration and self-expression.

Embracing imperfection on the mat also means embracing the ebb and flow of our practice – the days when our bodies feel strong and supple, and the days when fatigue and stiffness weigh heavy on our limbs. It means showing up on our mats with humility and grace, surrendering to the fluctuations of our bodies and minds, and meeting ourselves exactly where we are, without judgment or expectation.

Moreover, the practice of Ahimsa extends beyond the confines of our yoga mats and permeates every aspect of our lives. It challenges us to cultivate compassion and kindness towards ourselves and others, recognizing that we are all flawed and imperfect beings navigating the complexities of human existence. When we embrace imperfection in ourselves, we create a ripple effect of acceptance and understanding that radiates outwards, touching the hearts of those around us and fostering deeper connections and authentic relationships.

In a world that often feels fractured and divided, embracing imperfection becomes an act of radical defiance – a rejection of the narrow confines of perfectionism and a celebration of the messy, beautiful tapestry of human experience. It empowers us to embrace our uniqueness, to revel in our quirks and idiosyncrasies, and to boldly show up in the world as our imperfect, authentic selves.

As we navigate the ups and downs of life, let us remember the wisdom of Ahimsa – that true liberation arises not from the pursuit of perfection, but from the embrace of imperfection. Let us cultivate a spirit of gentleness and compassion towards ourselves and others, honoring the sacred journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance. And let us walk this path with open hearts and open minds, trusting in the transformative power of love, kindness, and acceptance to guide us towards wholeness and healing.

Kindness in Cruel Situations

How do we deal with cruelty from others and to ourselves? In a world that often tests our patience and challenges our kindness, the importance of grace shines through like a beacon of light in the darkest of times. As the saying goes, "It takes grace to be kind in cruel situations." Through life experience, I am offering guidance on how to extend kindness even in the face of toxicity – be it people, situations, or mindsets.

1. Understanding Grace:

Grace, in this context, is the ability to respond with kindness and compassion, even when faced with cruelty. It involves maintaining composure and choosing love over hostility. It is not a sign of weakness but a testament to inner strength and resilience.

2. Practice Empathy:

Empathy serves as the cornerstone of grace. To be kind in cruel situations, try to understand the perspectives and emotions of others. Often, toxic behavior stems from personal struggles and insecurities. By empathizing with their experiences, you can break the cycle of negativity. Even when people exhibit behaviors out of protection of some kind or privilege.

3. Set Boundaries:

While being kind is essential, it's equally crucial to establish boundaries. Protecting your well-being doesn't mean reciprocating toxicity. Establish firm but compassionate limits to safeguard your mental and emotional health.

4. Respond, Don't React:

Reacting impulsively to negativity may perpetuate the cycle of cruelty. Instead, respond thoughtfully. Take a moment to reflect on the situation, and choose a response that aligns with your values and promotes a positive outcome.

5. Cultivate Self-Compassion:

Being kind to others starts with being kind to yourself. Understand that you are not responsible for the toxic actions of others. Practice self-compassion, forgive yourself for any perceived shortcomings, and extend that same grace to those who may be struggling.

6. Focus on Solutions:

In the face of cruelty, shift your focus from dwelling on the problem to finding solutions. By adopting a problem-solving mindset, you can contribute to transforming a toxic situation into an opportunity for growth and understanding.

7. Lead by Example:

Demonstrate the power of grace through your actions. By consistently choosing kindness in challenging situations, you inspire those around you to do the same. Lead by example, and let your grace become a ripple effect that creates a more positive environment.

8. Celebrate Small Victories:

Recognize and celebrate the small victories of kindness. Whether it's a smile in the midst of adversity or a compassionate response to a negative comment, these small acts contribute to the greater good.

In a world where cruelty can sometimes feel overwhelming, the choice to be kind requires strength and resilience. Embrace grace as a guiding principle, navigating through toxic people, situations, and mindsets with kindness. Remember, it takes grace to be kind in cruel situations, and by choosing this path, you contribute to creating a more compassionate and understanding world.

Rediscovering Balance with the Four Pillars of Yoga During Seasonal Depression

As the days are slowly growing longer, the onset of winter can bring with it a sense of heaviness, lethargy, and for many, the familiar companionship of seasonal depression. This year, as we see the finish line for winter on the horizon, let's take a holistic approach to combat the winter blues. Let's turn to the wisdom of yoga and rediscover equilibrium through the four pillars: Ahar (diet), Vihar (lifestyle), Achar (behavior), and Vicar (thoughts).

1. Ahar (Diet): Nourish from Within

The winter season often tempts us with the allure of hearty comfort foods, rich in sugars and carbohydrates. While indulging in seasonal delights is part of the joy, practicing mindful eating is crucial. Consider incorporating warm, nutrient-rich meals that strike a balance between fruits, vegetables, and whole grains. Experiment with herbal teas and spices known for their mood-boosting properties. A well-nourished body provides the foundation for emotional well-being during the colder months.

2. Vihar (Lifestyle): Embrace Mindful Movement

One of the common challenges during winter is the temptation to succumb to lethargy - the Netflix & Chill. Combat this by incorporating gentle, yet invigorating, movements into your daily routine. Whether it's a morning yoga session, a brisk walk in the crisp air, or a dance class that brings joy to your heart, movement releases endorphins and lifts your spirits. Walking your dog is included and they love it too. Embrace the rejuvenating power of mindful movement to counteract the winter slump and keep both your body and mind active. For a gentle yoga flow, click here.

3. Achar (Behavior): Cultivate Positive Habits

Mindful behavior plays a pivotal role in combating the seasonal blues. Establishing a consistent sleep routine is vital to regulate your circadian rhythm, ensuring a restful and rejuvenating night's sleep. Create a cozy and well-lit space within your home to counteract the gloominess outside. Engage in activities that bring joy, whether it's reading, crafting, or connecting with loved ones. Small, positive habits can make a significant impact on your overall well-being during the winter months.

4. Vicar (Thoughts): Cultivate a Positive Mindset

The mind is a powerful force that can either be an ally or an adversary in our battle against seasonal depression. Challenge negative thought patterns by incorporating mindfulness and gratitude practices into your daily life. Keep a gratitude journal by writing 10 things you are grateful for before sleep, practice meditation, or indulge in moments of mindfulness throughout the day. Redirecting your thoughts toward the positive can create a profound shift in your emotional well-being, fostering resilience against the winter blues.

As we navigate the winter months, let's weave the ancient wisdom of yoga into the fabric of our lives. By focusing on Ahar, Vihar, Achar, and Vicar, we can create a harmonious and balanced winter experience. Embrace the nourishment of the body, the vitality of movement, the positivity of behavior, and the serenity of thoughts. Together, let's combat seasonal depression and invite warmth, well-being, and resilience into our lives during the colder months.

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Navigating the Shadows: Unveiling the Pitfalls of Toxic Positivity Through Yogic Wisdom

In the age of self-help mantras and motivational quotes, there's an emerging concern that demands our attention – the phenomenon of toxic positivity. Often masked as relentless optimism, this mindset dismisses any form of negativity or struggle, urging individuals to "stay positive" in every circumstance. However, as I delve into the profound teachings of yoga, we find that blindly embracing positivity can lead to a superficial understanding of life's complexities.

The Dark Side of Positivity

Toxic positivity suppresses authentic emotions, invalidating genuine struggles and challenges. For example, dismissing a valid complaint or a person in general. It's essential to acknowledge that life isn't always a bed of roses; it's a tapestry of light and shadow. The pressure to remain positive at all costs can create an unrealistic standard, leaving individuals feeling isolated when they grapple with difficulties.

Yogic Principles Unveiled

Acceptance (Santosha)

Yoga teaches us the importance of embracing all aspects of life, even the unpleasant ones. After all, we don’t know good if we don’t bad. Santosha, the principle of contentment, doesn't deny challenges but encourages us to find peace amidst the chaos. You can be the same person when times get rough and when you are enjoying life. Suppressing negative emotions contradicts the essence of acceptance.

Dualities (Dvandva)

Life is a dance of dualities – joy and sorrow, pleasure and pain. Yogic philosophy, through the concept of Dvandva, emphasizes that both polarities are inherent and inseparable. Rejecting one in favor of the other denies the richness of the human experience.

Dharma (Righteous Duty)

Toxic positivity may divert individuals from their dharma, their righteous duty. Accepting life's challenges is a crucial part of fulfilling our duties, learning, and growing. The pursuit of relentless positivity might blind us to the lessons inherent in difficulties.

Raga (Attachment) and Ajnana (Ignorance)

Yogic principles warn against excessive attachment (raga) to positive emotions and the ignorance (ajnana) of the wisdom embedded in challenges. Embracing the full spectrum of emotions, positive and negative, fosters emotional intelligence and spiritual growth.

Embracing Wholeness

In acknowledging the negative impacts of toxic positivity, we reclaim the power of authenticity. Yoga teaches us that true well-being arises from integrating all facets of our existence. By allowing ourselves to experience the full spectrum of emotions, we cultivate resilience, empathy, and a genuine connection to our inner selves.

Breaking the Chains

It's time to break free from the chains of toxic positivity and engage with life authentically. The yogic path invites us to find a balance between the light and dark, understanding that both are essential for our evolution. Let us embark on this journey of self-discovery, embracing the wisdom of yoga to navigate the shadows and illuminate the path toward genuine well-being.

Finding Light

Jeremy Eaton on the beach at Alimos, Athens, Greece.

Another week has commenced, marking another day closer to my eagerly anticipated return home. As I reflected in my previous entry, the mix of excitement and apprehension surrounding my impending homecoming persists, largely due to the myriad of opportunities and unknowns that lie ahead both personally and professionally. The prospect of redirecting my efforts toward an arts organization occupies my mind extensively, shaping my thoughts and aspirations.

I had an incredibly thought-provoking session with my therapist where I bravely bared my soul, delving into a comprehensive list of my deepest fears surrounding this monumental change in my life. The paradox of feeling more liberated in a foreign land than in the supposed sanctuary of my own 'home' perplexed me deeply. In response, my therapist astutely proposed that I reframe my apprehension of the unfamiliar as a sense of curiosity. Although I strive to embrace this perspective, I find myself ensnared by a relentless onslaught of doubts about my deservingness, competence, and resilience.

Many past experiences have led me to understand that the challenges I have encountered in my life are rooted in discrimination against my sexuality, talent level, and neglect, and have also been exacerbated by jealousy from others. In the face of these adversities, I have made the conscious decision to forgive, showcasing my resilience and unwavering determination to push forward. Throughout my journey, I have repeatedly come across individuals who have displayed genuine revulsion toward my true self by calling me a faggot, despite my inherent kindness and optimistic demeanor. Some people feel I shouldn’t excel because I am less than or below them. To be honest, I believe this is the main issue surrounding the relationship with my father.

No matter what I do or what I achieve, it is never fully realized. I can emcee an event with charismatic flair, meticulously organize all the entertainment, painstakingly select the decorations, and oversee flawless implementation, yet it is still regarded as ‘maybe’ helped. There is no victorious moment, and I find myself at an age where I am compelled to seek my own approval before seeking validation from someone who may not be capable of truly loving me. This struggle is not unique, as I have come to understand that many relationships between parents and their children are inherently complex. After all, I carry with me the weight of not feeling wanted from the very beginning and all I became was a problem.

I have spent years relentlessly running through life, tirelessly seeking and poignantly conquering opportunity after opportunity. I have traversed from city to state to city to country, amassing a wealth of awards and recognition along the way. Despite my outward success, I have constantly grappled with a pervasive sense of unworthiness and emptiness. Hours, days, and months have been consumed by futilely assigning blame – to myself, to others, to circumstance. Nevertheless, there comes a time when I must confront the reality before me, turn the page, and embark on a new chapter. Although I have made strides in releasing the shackles of pre-2021 failures, I find myself repeatedly entangled in familiar lessons dressed in new guises, encountering diverse individuals and situations yet grappling with the same unresolved enigmas. What an enigma this is!

In most examples, I can firmly stand in the belief that I have consistently done the right thing. I approached various situations with genuine kindness and treated individuals with the utmost dignity and compassion. Moreover, I have lent my unwavering support to those who have felt victimized by addressing what is incorrect or unjust. This involved probing into matters of ethics and morality to safeguard the only invaluable asset I possess—my name. However, encountering these scenarios repeatedly prompts one to ponder the underlying reasons that drive people to do what is right. It becomes disheartening when individuals who transgress face no repercussions because of their popularity or the outcome of a vote in their favor.

You have the power to whistleblow if you witness corruption or injustice, to stand up and speak out amidst the chaos. Sometimes, the burden of the world may feel unbearably heavy, but there are ways to release that weight—through shouts that echo from the depths of your soul, or tears that flow freely in the shelter of your car in the parking lot of your job. In a society that often seems to revolve around the individual, I find solace in holding onto my sense of optimism. Deep down, I wholeheartedly believe that there is a unique place for me, a purpose awaiting my arrival. This conviction is the driving force behind my persistent pursuit of opportunities and my unwavering sense of hope. I frequently find myself meditating on the idea that, in this vast universe, I am already in the process of aligning with a greater plan at play. Although this alignment may not manifest today or even in the upcoming week, I refuse to yield to discouragement. I maintain my steadfast belief that there is a place meant just for me, for the universe continuously imparts upon me the same enduring lessons. In this phase of my journey, my primary role is to listen intently and remain attuned to the subtle nudges of the universe.

If this resonates with you on some level regarding parental relationships, discrimination of any kind or feelings of lostness or emptiness, please reach out to me at jeremy@thejeremyeaton.

Welcome Back?

As I sit down to write after revisiting my last blog post of 2019, I can't help but marvel at the whirlwind that has been my life since then. Life, they say, is a journey filled with unexpected twists and turns. Mine has been no exception.

The relationship I once held so dear has become a memory, COVID threw the world into chaos, and I found myself in Rochester, NY, then unexpectedly dwelling in an RV in Waco, Texas. Friendships that were once close have evolved, and I've moved back to Missouri. This lead to me becoming a campground host for the Missouri State Park system and residing in a camper.

Amidst these changes, life took an inevitable turn with the passing of my beloved grandma. However, in the midst of farewells and closures, new friendships and chosen family emerged, turning the pages of my story in unexpected ways. I hopped on a plane with no clear destination, embracing the uncertainty.

This journey led me to apply for directing Creative Arts Productions, Lion King Jr., this summer at the Missouri Theatre. During my travels, an opportunity to make a significant impact on St. Joseph's art scene has presented itself as a retirement has made way for new beginnings. I've thrown my hat into the ring for an Executive Director position with the Performing Arts Association in St. Joseph, MO. It's a call to go home, and I find myself at a crossroads, weighing options, and for the first time, relishing the power of choice.

Previously, my life felt like grasping at straws, but now, I'm navigating a sea of possibilities. I have the chance to volunteer with the Missouri State Parks system again, or work at The Bavarian Inn in Eureka Springs, soaking in the tourist season. It's not a desperate search anymore; it's a mindful selection, and it feels liberating.

I have submitted my resume to an agency in Kansas City, MO, opening doors for acting, voiceover, and modeling work. My new website showcases not only my diverse artistic endeavors but also my experience with yoga, a practice that has been my anchor during these transformative times.

Jeremy Eaton, The Prince Islands

Jeremy Eaton on a boat passing the Prince Islands

Reflecting on the last four years, I've learned about coexisting with diverse personalities, discovering profound levels of patience and forgiveness. Time, I've realized, has its way of serving justice. My instinct to fight every battle has given way to prioritizing inner peace – a delicate balance I strive to maintain.

Before leaving Missouri, I glimpsed the possibility of finding peace at home. Connecting with like-minded community members and rekindling friendships gave me a taste of the fulfillment that comes from being truly at home. I cast my net wide, and now, it's time to embrace the abundance that awaits.

As I revisit this blog, I'm prepared to delve into the personal aspects of my life. It's a source of entertainment and reflection, a space to release emotions and share my truth. Naiveté has given way to a more grounded perspective. I'm no sage offering solutions; I'm navigating life one moment, one day, and one breath at a time – just like you.

While this blog will be deeply personal, I implore you not to use it as fodder for gossip. It's my story, and interpretations may vary. It's raw, unfiltered, and genuine. If you're along for the ride, fasten your seatbelt – this is "A Raw Blog." Thank you for being part of this journey.

Change

My schedule has changed by not being in class Monday through Friday from 2pm-6pm. I now use that time to study and get ready for my upcoming trip to the United States. I am so excited to see my parents and my coworkers. I am even more excited to be able to teach the students coming to my classes. I have a meeting about an upcoming mural project that I am working on. I have a speaking engagement for our business community and several other meetings regarding the market in Saint Joseph.

With all of this, my excitement is starting to build but I can’t help but feel anxious about everything that I need to accomplish over the next few days. Taking the dogs to their veterinarian appointments and to the quarantine office today to make sure that there are no health issues. All is clear for the big dogs with the vet. However, today is our quarantine office appointment. We were told to allow 3-4 hours for this appointment. Also, the person who normally does this is not going to be there so it will hopefully be someone that knows what they are doing.

India has a whole list of things that don’t make sense and systems that are completely broken with no solutions in sight or on the horizon. You pay money and things happen. You pay extra money and things happen faster. Its all corruption but I’m grateful that I can get my big dogs home and start this process of moving back to the United States. I don’t feel ready to move back at all.

There is so much of the world I haven’t seen yet. There is so much of the world I haven’t seen yet. Being on the other side of the world has opened my eyes to so many things. I am so small in the larger picture of this existence. A spec really when you look at my life in the scale of the cosmos. I have much more journey in me before I am done seeing the world and learning about its amazing people.

Today is a stepping stone closer to this reality that I’m not ready to face yet. I keep repeating to myself that I can do whatever I want to do. I can live where ever I want to live in this world. I can continue with my purpose anywhere in the world I decide to be in. Now, I just need to decide where that special place is. I am burning with ideas and suggestions so much that I have created a sort of anxiety and butterfly feelings in my stomach. Scared and excited can feel the same. I would definitely say that I’m more excited but would be lying if I said I wasn’t scared.

Final Days

While I don’t leave Mumbai until December, I am wrapping up my teaching experience with The Yoga Institute Powai on October 10th to get ready for all the changes that are about to take place and to travel with another friend that is visiting in November. My experience as a teacher would not be near as great if I hadn’t been blessed by the opportunity from Rahul sir.

The very first time I went to his studio when they had opened, I told him that I wanted to teach. Then, after my ‘internship’ in Idaho and my return to India, I was granted this amazing opportunity to teach for him and the Yoga Institute. I learned to not judge myself so harshly and that it is ok to learn while teaching. It is ok to make mistakes.

Rahul and his wife are two of the most kind people I have ever met. If I did make a mistake, Rahul would be there with compassion and a soft voice to correct me. I always felt that he was a gift to me by the karma that had been done to me in the United States. A gift from God saying that I was on the right path and to keep going.

I am leading a Yoga Nidra session tomorrow and people are already telling me that I shouldn’t leave Mumbai. I agree with them but even being an American, I wouldn’t be able to afford to live in such a Metropolitan city such as Mumbai. I will lead past studetns, new students and current students through a guided Yoga Nidra session that will last 1 hour. After trailing this last weekend, even I felt relaxed after conducting the class.

Final days are approaching and I am just shocked that a year can fly by so fast. I’m shocked that no level of preparation can prepare you for moving back all the way across the world with your doggie children and your Doug. Nothing can prepare you for the tears that come while your students are relaxing to the sound of your voice. The final days in India are approaching sooner than I had ever thought they would.